I use tabs, so that's focus of request. My eyes are not the best. Sublime's selected tabs are glaring solid fat neon line. Glue code to gutter, conceal code carats, disturb theme colors.
Here we see how selected tabs look REALLY UGLY, unthemed
Here we have tabs edited in a graphics app to make them look decent.
Please tell me how I can edit the tmTheme and Settings
to make Sublime's selected tabs look decent.